My grand mother prepared a tin full of Badam Halwa Cake and handed it to me. I placed it with my clothes and zipped the bag shut. On reaching Singapore, I promptly put it into the refrigerator. Everyday I would open the fridge to see if the Halwa was intact and would tell myself I would eat a piece of it the next day. On some days I would break a piece into half and consume one portion of it.
One day I opened to see the Badam Cake was grey in color as compared to its rich beige color. Fungi had infested the cake and I had to throw away the partially filled box with a heavy heart. I could not comprehend how the halwa that had seemed fresh had suddenly turned grey. I wondered if the greying had occurred over a period of time and whether I had been absent minded. I chided myself for my absent mindedness and wondered if destroying some of the spoilt halwa would have helped the rest of the halwa remain uninfested. I was surprised yet a little upset at the same time.
This Badam Halwa analogy holds good for all relationships including friendship. Several times we notice that a friendship has gone sour primarily because we fail to notice the changes. We are caught in a time race and effectively ignore the greying symptoms. We keep putting away making calls to the next day, assuming that there will be one more day. This cycle continues until you feel an emotional disconnection with the person. This disconnection spreads like the fungus, unfortunately you are caught in a eutopic world that you fail to notice the fungi and the end result is a sour friendship infested with bitterness.
Make that call that you need to make TODAY. Do not put it off until tomorrow for the person may not need you tomorrow, do not let the fungi spread. Be vigilant and give people the importance they deserve. Do not let the emotional disconnection develop for one day it may lead to a situation where your loved one may need to discard your friendship just like I had to discard the tin of Badam Halwa.
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